Stefanie Stoppel
Sex Counseling
Supporting you on your journey toward an authentic and more fulfilling sex life.
Sexuality can awaken passionate vitality — but it can also bring pain and shame to the surface. We will lovingly address these challenges using mindful bodywork, and pave the way for sensuality, pleasure, and connection.
Body-centered sex counseling
For many people, sexuality is an important source of vitality, joy, and self-determination. Whether you are straight or queer, cis or trans*, in a monogamous, open, or polyamorous relationship: sex and the body are topics that touch us deeply.
Sometimes challenges come up when our body doesn't play along, unpleasant emotions like shame or fear arise, or social norms and expectations distance us from our desires. It can also happen that we don't feel like having sex and at the same time wish it were different. Situations like these can be stressful and leave us questioning whether there is something wrong with us.
Sex counseling is a loving and courageous step toward yourself. In my practice, I create a space where your body, your history, and your experiences are accepted fully and without judgment. My body-centered approach will enable you to relate to yourself mindfully and discover your boundaries, your capacity for pleasure, and your sexual vitality. This will set you on a path to shape your sexuality in a way that feels right for you.
Topics
I support individual clients, couples, and polycules with the following topics:
- •Pain before, during, or after sex, vaginismus, and vaginal dryness
- •Erectile dysfunction and premature ejaculation
- •Lack of sexual desire and other libido challenges
- •Questions about sexual orientation, gender identity, and sexuality beyond normative ideas
- •Learning to recognize and communicate needs and boundaries
- •Strengthening sexual self-confidence
- •(Re)discovering your ability to enjoy sex — with the body you have
How it works
Free intro call
We will get to know each other and discuss your enquiry in a free 15‑minute phone or video call. If we are a good fit, we will arrange your first appointment, either in person in Hamburg or online. You can .
First session & setting your goal
First, we'll explore the context of your challenge and reflect on your sexual history. Once we have a better idea of what's going on, we'll set a realistic goal for your journey and decide on a timeline for our collaboration.
You begin your journey
During our sessions, you will develop new approaches toward your goals using mindful somatic practices. This will help you face challenges with self-compassion and set you on your journey to a more fulfilling sex life.
Pricing
Counseling for individuals
Counseling for couples
Sliding scale
Want to work with me but the full fee is a stretch right now? Please get in touch. I have a limited number of sliding-scale sessions available.
FAQ
Sex counseling can be valuable if you are experiencing challenges with your sexuality that are troubling you. These can include low libido, erectile dysfunction, or pain during sex. It is also often helpful to seek support during different life stages or when experiencing major life events.
I offer counseling for individuals of all sexual orientations and gender identities, as well as various relationship types, regardless of age, origin, or social and religious context. It's important to me to approach my clients' layered identities and lived experiences with openness and respect. My particular focus is on people from the LGBTQIA+ community.
I am part of the queer community myself and am constantly learning about topics that lie outside my own experience. This allows me to bring both professional and personal understanding to my work. Beyond that, I always regard my clients as experts on their own lived experiences — valuing and incorporating this expertise is at the heart of my work.
In our body-centered sex counseling sessions, we explore the origins of your challenges together and examine their effects. Through mindful bodywork you learn to attend to your body and its sensations with loving attention. By making small physical changes, you will gradually rediscover your sexuality and learn to shape it according to your desires.
During mindful bodywork, I will explain how an exercise works and demonstrate it so that you can follow along easily. If I think that physical contact might be helpful, I'll ask for your consent beforehand. You decide at all times what is okay for you and where your boundaries lie.
Sessions are available in person in Hamburg or online via video call. Please note that in-person sessions are only available on Fridays, while online sessions are available at a more flexible schedule. You can choose whichever works best for you.
I offer sex counseling sessions in German and English.
It is difficult to give a general estimate, as it depends on the nature of your challenges. Sometimes 3 to 4 sessions may be sufficient, while in other cases more consultations are necessary to see meaningful improvements.
Unfortunately, the costs are generally not covered by health insurance.
When booking your session, your payment will be processed through Stripe. Your payment options include credit card, Apple Pay, Google Pay, and more.
Sessions can be cancelled free of charge up to 48 hours in advance. For shorter notice cancellations or no-shows, I will no longer be able to offer the slot to another client, so I will have to charge you the full cost of the session.
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Contact
Book your free, 15‑minute intro call directly or send me a message below if you have any questions.